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  Surgery for your child and the blood issue

  by anewlife in

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  monday morning my 14 y/o son was having severe abdominal pain in the lower right abdomen...diagnosis....appendicitis.

  needless to say an emergency appendectomy was performed.

  all went very well as they did the procedure laparoscopicly and therefore he went home in 24 hours and is recovering nicely.. my question/thought to others is this: i was df'd 2 years ago.

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  Believe it or not, we worldly people worry about blood too...not in the same way JW do, but there is always a concern. I am in a medical field, so I have known the pros/cons of blood for a long time.

  Blood is a life saver, not a convenience. Would I accept blood just to raise my moderately low hemoglobin instead of taking iron supplements? No, of course not, that would be medically irresponsible.

  Would I accept blood for myself or my family to save a life? You bet I would!!!!! The proven benefit (life) is more than balanced by any possible risk (possible future health problems).

  All of the physicians that I know, and whose judgment and skill I trust, are extremely conservative about using blood, and I know if they prescribe it, there is a definite medical necessity for its use.

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  Calgary Blood Case Effectively Over - We Won!

  by AlanF in

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  thought everyone would like to hear some great news about the calgary blood case.

  i was sent the following, which i've modified to protect the guilty:.

  at the witnesses' request, the trial has been put over till october.

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  Thank you for the update, Alan.

  I wonder if the WT's emphasis in going to the case before the Supreme Court is to set a legal precident. The issue of what constiutes a mature minor and how much control she should have over her life and dealth decisions would have bigger implications for them. If the WT wins at the Supreme Court level, they will have a much easier time the next time the same issue comes up. That is what the case before the supreme court is about, right? As far as I recall (which seems like very little lately, lol) some of the Supreme Court Judges are fairly strongly in favour of individual rights. Perhaps someone with a Canadian legal background knows more about it and can explain it.

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  Calgary girl - interviews, etc.

  by Scully in

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  http://www.heathkara.com/mia.htm .

  in case anyone is interested, someone has gone to the trouble of recording interviews with "mia" where she describes the case from her point of view.. i'm listening to some of the mp3s right now, and have just reached the point where her dad made the decision to consent to her having the transfusions.. she said "we refused blood".

  meaning initially her mother, father and herself.

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  Thank you, Scully. I just peeked at it as I found the sound files slow loading. I see that the people who put this up are JW and live in Calgary. I wonder if they are Mia's friends, and what they really think of it all.

  I find this whole blood refusal thing so scary. Suicide bombers are obviously nuts....sorry, I'm being judgmental. They kill themselves (and others) for the sake of their religion. So a JW is allowed to kill themselves...because that is what refusing blood in those critical situations results in...death... and in doing so hurt others ( the health care providers who care for them, the families left behind). Yes, there is less physical harm to others, but it is just as wrong.

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  Were you chaperoned?

  by writerpen in

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  now that i'm out of the borg and realizing that i've never dated, i think it's in the near future for me.

  so i was thinking about my age of 30 and never being on a date.

  but even worse, i was thinking of those of you who dated while in the borg and had to deal with an audience - actually i had to laugh when thinking about the absurdity of the scenario.

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  To an outsider, this issue of HAVING to have a chaperone is ludicrous. In essense the JWs are teaching kids that they are no better than animals, and CAN'T control themselves. I prefer the approach, that sexual attraction is normal, and kids have to learn to deal with it act in a way that fits in with their own morality. So, they don't need a chaperone, but they do have to figure out that maybe going to someone's empty house after school and necking is not so wise. Fun, maybe, but not wise. The control and judgement has to come from within themselves, because if they really want to get into stuff, they will find a way, chaperone or no chaperone.

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  my daughter on the front page of our local news!

  by FRUSR8TD in

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  What a little cutie!
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  Answers about Witnessess & Non-Witnessess

  by Overseer in

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  i, myself are not a witness, i am 18, male and live in england.. six months ago i met a 17 year old jehovah's witness, became very attached to her and grew to love her.

  her mother does not approve of the relationship at all and has resorted to threats to throw her out, grounding her, ignoring her, contacting elders, unless she discontinues seeing me.

  first question: if her not seeing me makes her very unhappy and her seeing me makes her very happy-why is it wrong that we stay together?

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  Welcome Overseer,

  My daughter has a JW boyfriend, and I can tell you that it is a difficult/almost no win situation. As long as she is dependent on her parents she will have no choice in the matter. If she chooses you over them, she loses her family.

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  News from Calgary

  by larc in

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  the trial to decide whether the father can continue to allow his ill jw daughter to have blood transfusions is in progress.

  four people are testifying in the father's defense.

  jim penton, sam muramoto, chris christonson, and greg stafford.

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  Thank you for the update. Although it is taking place only two hundred miles from here, there is very little in the media about the case. I have been wondering how things are going.

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  I'm Sad Too

  by blondie in

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  i have been coming here as a lurker for some time and occasionally posting.

  i was first drawn by posts from alanf and farkel who i suspect are in my age bracket and from my era in the wts.

  i look forward to bill bowen's posts because i have a personal interest in combating the abuse of children in any form or group.

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  Blondie,

  I couldn't agree more.

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  Sometimes I Am Ashamed

  by Dutchie in

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  does every issue of morality have to be compared with the thinking and teaching of jehovahs witnesses?

  simply because you are no longer jehovahs witnesses does that mean that you flaunt all moral authority and engaged in any perverted pleasure that you have a mind to?

  because your morality is no longer legislated by a pseudo religious organization does that give you license to engage in all acts of "immorality" and refer to it "as just having fun.

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  Dutchie, I agree with you. Maybe I am a never JW, fairly conservative middle aged mother but so be it, I am. I am entitled to my opinion too.

  Dutchie, should you have time and inclination, please e mail me and we can chat about a hobby our daughters share (modelling). Thanks.

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  Too much bad language, sex & pics

  by Simon in

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  please can everyone think twice before they make posts containing bad language (even if not directed at individuals), graphic sex talk and nude or semi-nude pictures (especially if explicit).

  this is not what the forum is here for.

  if you want to post stuff like that then there are lots of places on the internet for it and, more importantly, if people want to see and read stuff like that then they are quite capable of going to these places themselves.. i know everyone likes to 'let their hair down' now and again, me included, and i like pictures of sexy women as much as anyone .

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  concerned mama

  I agree with Jewel. It is Simon's site, and what he is asking for is reasonable and moderate. He has a point, as the one JW I know who has looked at the site was freaked by it.

  Edited by - concerned mama on 9 June 2002 23:53:46